As we grown older, most of us are going through the different stages of life such as committing to graduate school, investing in our careers, marriage, starting a family or moving to a different country. There’s less time to spend with friends, other relationships might take priority, and it can start to feel like we have less in common than we used to.
Change is part of life, so being at different life stages shouldn’t signal the end of great friendships.
Here are few ways to stay close to your friends close when you feel like you’re in different places:
- Change doesn’t have to mark the end of a friendship.
Change is a part of life and when it comes around it can feel like you don’t have anything in common with your friends but it doesn’t have to drive a wedge in your relationships.
On the contrary, this can be an opportunity to learn from one another, starting a career before your college friends? Share words of wisdom when they have their first day on the job. Planning a wedding? Keep your helpful tips ready for when your friends find themselves engaged down the road. Our differences can help build up friendships, not tear them apart.
- Keep in touch
Because our friendship is important to our well being, manage to make some space in our schedule to get together and hang out.
If meeting in person is not possible (for long distance friendships), thanks to advancement in technology, we can still feel connected with phone calls to update each other on what’s happening, text messages or even something as simple as following and liking each other’s pictures on social media keeps us all connected even from different parts of the world.
Whether it’s once a week or once a month, having conversations about what’s really going on in your life, talk about our struggles, celebrate our successes, and share our hopes for the future. This kind of authenticity will help us better understand what the other person is going through and bridge the gap between our different situations in life.
- Avoid social comparisons
When we are at different life stage , we tend to compare ourselves with our friends, such as why am I still single and them in a happy relationship? Or your friend might have a better job , earn more money etc.
Instead of noticing all the ways you feel behind or being overly self-critical, remember that everyone deals with their share of ups and downs. You never really know what someone is struggling with, even a close friend.
You should never view your challenges as a disadvantage , it is important for you to understand that your experiences facing and overcoming adversity is actually one of your biggest advantage to help you grow.
- Make time for new memories
Do some activities, share your hobbies with your friends: games, sports, shopping or simply going to the movies.
All those little pleasure of every day life can help you feel close when you’re in different places.
And for those who are experiencing a long distance friendship you can still share your new experiences through the phone, photos, videos, plan to visit each other or go on holidays and explore the world together. Memories, fortify relationships and increase their endurance.